You Do the Math:
A Look at Some Incredible Statements
Joey Moncarz
“Right, you should not have been convicted. There's a lot questionable here...
the totality [of the evidence] points to a different narrative."
- King's Counsel (KC) barrister in Wellington, after the trial
the totality [of the evidence] points to a different narrative."
- King's Counsel (KC) barrister in Wellington, after the trial
Here are just some of the provable words spoken by my ex partner/business partner in the few weeks before I was accused, so that you can do the math. These were all accepted as factually true by the prosecutor, but completely denied by my ex, who claimed another woman said them! (Yes, really.)
My Ex Partner Made Many Threats to Lie & Use the Police Against Me
She Was Forcing Her Children to Reject and Hate Me
This was daily and stemmed from jealousy, as she admitted: “I am jealous. Of course I'm jealous.” Her kids preferred me as a parent because I was calm, stable, patient, and supportive.
Her: “He's evil. Don't you know?”
Child: “You are.”
Her – “It's the evil Jew’s fault.”
Child – “That's your fault, actually. Everything is your fault.”
Her: “Men don't want to work...they don't want to prostitute themselves for money...and Joey is far too fucking moral.”
Mother: “It was a horrible, miserable year. Joey made sure it was.”
Child: “It wasn't his fault. If it was miserable, it was your fault.”
Child (to mother): “Why do you lie all the time?”
Child: “You're telling me what to do.”
Her: “And what to think, don't forget.”
[child to mother] “It's your fault! Every single thing is your fault! It's not Joey's fault! It's yours!”
My Ex Partner Made Many Threats to Lie & Use the Police Against Me
- “If you want me to ruin this school, I will. Personally, with my bare hands, okay? And I'll suffocate it. Do not fuck with me... I'm just warning you.”
- “I don’t care, I’m going to call the police to do it and then the school will end, as you know, if police appear here.”
- “I’ll get police involved...And the school will end because the school will end then.”
- “Should I call you a child molester?”
- “This school will go down in flames...”
- "I will bulldoze over you.”
- “[The school's] going to be ending very soon.”
- “I hurt a lot of people but I get things done.”
- “I will start all over again, Joey. I am ending [the school] and hiring someone to run it from scratch. I already have a plan, don't worry.”
- "She [a female staff member] won't defend you in court."
- “And don't forget to ask government for the dole when you get out, because you'll be needing it. Because no one will hire you, that I know.”
She Was Forcing Her Children to Reject and Hate Me
This was daily and stemmed from jealousy, as she admitted: “I am jealous. Of course I'm jealous.” Her kids preferred me as a parent because I was calm, stable, patient, and supportive.
Her: “He's evil. Don't you know?”
Child: “You are.”
Her – “It's the evil Jew’s fault.”
Child – “That's your fault, actually. Everything is your fault.”
Her: “Men don't want to work...they don't want to prostitute themselves for money...and Joey is far too fucking moral.”
- “Disgusting. Don't look at him.” “Guys, he's sucking my blood.”
- “Can you not talk to him? I can't stand him opening his mouth.”
- “He has to come and screw me. Look. His job is to screw me.”
- “After everything I've done, he has to come and screw me for the [school staff].”
- “You're not sitting with him! You are not sitting with him!”
Mother: “It was a horrible, miserable year. Joey made sure it was.”
Child: “It wasn't his fault. If it was miserable, it was your fault.”
Child (to mother): “Why do you lie all the time?”
Child: “You're telling me what to do.”
Her: “And what to think, don't forget.”
[child to mother] “It's your fault! Every single thing is your fault! It's not Joey's fault! It's yours!”
She Was Trying to Turn Staff and Colleagues Against Me
She never missed an opportunity to make people think the worst about me. Look, she even admitted it!
Me: “You say exactly what you need to say to make people think the worst about me.”
Her: “I say this to everyone...Me [instilling doubt] I say to everyone. Okay? I'm sorry about upsetting your relationship with your staff. Hopefully it didn't because it's solid. It's rock solid and I haven't proved a bloody thing.”
Me: “You’re the one who tried to turn school staff against me.”
Her: “May I remind you, the reason I did that, I wasn't going behind your back. I may have, you know...
8 weeks before the allegations:
“Just to be clear, I never really suspected anyone. And if I say shit, it just slips, you know. I don't know how else to abuse someone, you know? Just to be clear, for the record.”
“I get pissed off, I say shit.”
She never missed an opportunity to make people think the worst about me. Look, she even admitted it!
Me: “You say exactly what you need to say to make people think the worst about me.”
Her: “I say this to everyone...Me [instilling doubt] I say to everyone. Okay? I'm sorry about upsetting your relationship with your staff. Hopefully it didn't because it's solid. It's rock solid and I haven't proved a bloody thing.”
Me: “You’re the one who tried to turn school staff against me.”
Her: “May I remind you, the reason I did that, I wasn't going behind your back. I may have, you know...
8 weeks before the allegations:
“Just to be clear, I never really suspected anyone. And if I say shit, it just slips, you know. I don't know how else to abuse someone, you know? Just to be clear, for the record.”
“I get pissed off, I say shit.”
She Had Intense Custody Fears
She Was Afraid that She Would Go to Jail
She Hated School Staff and Planned to Get Rid of Me and the Parents
Two weeks before the allegations:
Me: None of the [school] parents want to deal with you. I don't, either. That's why we're moving the school.
Her: I don't want to deal with them! I talked to someone who is prepared to run this...I have a complete plan as to what I'm going to do.”
“Do you know what? I hate their guts. I hate un-schoolers. The more I see them, the more I hate them.”
“There will be no civility and respect until the cleansing happens. And that cleansing will happen when the parents are gone.”
Her: “You've been running a community, participatory parents' school since 2017 and that's what I completely despise. I completely despise.”
Two weeks before the allegations, about me running the school without her:
“Over my dead body. Do you understand me?”
- “They will always stay with me. Not by choice. Maybe by choice they would have been with you, but we don't live in that kind of society.”
- “But now I can't unglue them from you...”
- “They are not gonna let you go. Not for their life.”
- “If you move out, she's going to be heartbroken.”
- “Soon he’s going to claiming custody, I’ll see.”
- [To children] “Because you’ve spent a year with him and I can see this, and I didn't realize…It’s not just a little happy commune now, I'm losing my kids. Because I'm a bad mother.”
- “Soon I'm going to be knocking on my own door and the locks are going to be changed because my children don't feel like talking to their mum.”
- “If this carries on I'm going to be kicked out of my own house.”
She Was Afraid that She Would Go to Jail
- “Police. CYFS. [Child welfare] Now it's anti-semitism. There we go. Soon I'm going to jail. Joey is going to stay on the land and I'm going to jail. That’s as far as I can see.”
- “One day I will end up in jail because of this shit, I can tell you.”
- “I’m not going to jail over this shit!”
- (to children) “You always blame me, you complain to him about that, so stop. That's between us... Let's not talk about me in his presence, you got it?”
- [to children] “Do you want to get me into bigger trouble than I'm already in?...Stop talking to him about me. Okay? Don't add to my worries. I already have plenty.”
- Child: “I wish I had another kind of mum that was a good mum.”
- Child: "Mum should say sorry. She is the only one who should be saying sorry in this house."
She Hated School Staff and Planned to Get Rid of Me and the Parents
Two weeks before the allegations:
Me: None of the [school] parents want to deal with you. I don't, either. That's why we're moving the school.
Her: I don't want to deal with them! I talked to someone who is prepared to run this...I have a complete plan as to what I'm going to do.”
“Do you know what? I hate their guts. I hate un-schoolers. The more I see them, the more I hate them.”
“There will be no civility and respect until the cleansing happens. And that cleansing will happen when the parents are gone.”
Her: “You've been running a community, participatory parents' school since 2017 and that's what I completely despise. I completely despise.”
Two weeks before the allegations, about me running the school without her:
“Over my dead body. Do you understand me?”
She Made Frequent Sexual Accusations
She frequently used sexual accusations and the idea of child molestation to win arguments, and to bully me. Often these accusations were in front of her kids. These can all be proven:
She frequently used sexual accusations and the idea of child molestation to win arguments, and to bully me. Often these accusations were in front of her kids. These can all be proven:
- She frequently accused me of sleeping with various school staff.
- She accused teenage male students of being possible child molesters - in order to stop the school from holding school camps for the teenage students.
- She accused fathers of her kids' friends of being possible child molesters - in order to not allow her kids to go to their friends' houses.
- She suggested to her kids that other men could be child molesters - in order to prevent them from going to a birthday party in a local park.
- For TWO YEARS she was planting the same idea about me to school staff.. They told me about this.
- And of course, she repeatedly forced these ideas onto her kids.
Finally, One Week Before the Accusations:
One week before the accusations, the two children both told me:
“She yells and screams every day and says how much she hates you. And she blames you for everything. But we know it's not true.”
These are all undeniable facts. You do the math.
One week before the accusations, the two children both told me:
“She yells and screams every day and says how much she hates you. And she blames you for everything. But we know it's not true.”
These are all undeniable facts. You do the math.
Joey Moncarz