ACTUAL FACTS
Joey Moncarz
“People believe that they are objective in their decision-making, but they are not. They selectively collect and interpret information in a way that supports their existing beliefs.”
— Daniel Kahneman, Nobel Prize-winning psychologist, author of Thinking, Fast and Slow
— Daniel Kahneman, Nobel Prize-winning psychologist, author of Thinking, Fast and Slow
Presenting the facts is largely a waste of time. People will believe what they want to believe, for various reasons other than calm, thoughtful deliberation. According to neuroscience, you've already made up your mind.
But here are just a few provable words spoken by my ex partner/business partner in the few weeks before I was accused. These were all accepted by the prosecutor, but completely denied by my ex, who claimed another woman said them. (Yes, really.)
FACT: My Ex Partner Made Many Threats to Lie & Use the Police Against Me
But here are just a few provable words spoken by my ex partner/business partner in the few weeks before I was accused. These were all accepted by the prosecutor, but completely denied by my ex, who claimed another woman said them. (Yes, really.)
FACT: My Ex Partner Made Many Threats to Lie & Use the Police Against Me
- “If you want me to ruin this school, I will. Personally, with my bare hands, okay? And I'll suffocate it. Do not fuck with me... I'm just warning you.”
- “I don’t care, I’m going to call the police to do it and then the school will end, as you know, if police appear here.”
- “I’ll get police involved...And the school will end because the school will end then.”
- "This school will go down in flames!"
- "I will bulldoze over you.”
- “I hurt a lot of people but I get things done.”
FACT: She Was Trying to Turn Everyone We Knew Against Me
She never missed an opportunity to make people think the worst about me. Look, she even admitted it!
Me: “You say exactly what you need to say to make people think the worst about me.”
Her: “I say this to everyone...Me [instilling doubt] I say to everyone. Okay?”
Me: “You’re the one who tried to turn school staff against me.”
Her: “May I remind you, the reason I did that, I wasn't going behind your back. I may have, you know...
8 weeks before the allegations:
“Just to be clear, I never really suspected anyone. And if I say shit, it just slips, you know. I don't know how else to abuse someone, you know? Just to be clear, for the record.”
“I get pissed off, I say shit.”
FACT: She Was Abusing Her Kids and Me for Four Years
- Me: “That's bullying and abusive behavior.”
Her: “I don't fucking care. This is how I roll!”
FACT: She Had Intense Custody Fears
- “I'm losing my kids. Because I'm a bad mother."
- Child: “I wish I had another kind of mum that was a good mum."
FACT: She Was Afraid that She Would Go to Jail
- child
- “Police. [Child welfare.] Now it's anti-semitism. There we go. Soon I'm going to jail. Joey is going to stay on the land and I'm going to jail. That’s as far as I can see.”
- “One day I will end up in jail because of this shit, I can tell you.”
- “I’m not going to jail over this shit!”
- [to children] “Do you want to get me into bigger trouble than I'm already in?...Stop talking to him about me. Okay? Don't add to my worries. I already have plenty.”
- child
FACT: She Made Frequent Sexual Accusations
This was her established pattern of behavior. She frequently used sexual accusations and the idea of child molestation to win arguments, to bully me, and to distract everyone from the actual abuser. She then forced these ideas onto her kids and school parents.
This was her established pattern of behavior. She frequently used sexual accusations and the idea of child molestation to win arguments, to bully me, and to distract everyone from the actual abuser. She then forced these ideas onto her kids and school parents.
- She frequently accused me of sleeping with various school staff.
- She accused teenage male students of being possible child molesters - in order to stop the school from holding school camps for the teenage students.
- She accused fathers of her kids' friends of being possible child molesters - in order to not allow her kids to go to their friends' houses.
- She suggested to her kids that other men could be child molesters - in order to prevent them from going to a birthday party in a local park.
- For TWO YEARS she was planting the same idea about me to school staff.. They told me about this.
- And of course, she repeatedly forced these ideas onto her kids.
FACT: One Week Before the Accusations:
One week before the accusations, the two children both told me:
“She yells and screams every day and says how much she hates you. And she blames you for everything. But we know it's not true.”
These are all undeniable facts.
One week before the accusations, the two children both told me:
“She yells and screams every day and says how much she hates you. And she blames you for everything. But we know it's not true.”
These are all undeniable facts.
Joey Moncarz